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I would like to take this opportunity to
share with you a desire I have long held.
Every year, hundreds of thousands of Christians find themselves embroiled in
some form of conflict — marital, business, etc. Some conflicts are legal,
some merely personal, and some are a mixture of both. People find themselves
confused by what is happening, unable to see "justice", getting angry and
bitter at their opponent, and suffering spiritual imprisonment (see Matt.
5:25-26; Gal. 5:15). Often times these conflicts take place within, and lead
to a division within a local congregation.
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I have spent my life in and/or dealing
with conflict from both worldly and biblical perspectives. I have been:
child of parent and parent of children; student of teachers and teachers of
students; employee of employer and employer of employee; member of church in
conflict with leadership and member of leadership in conflict with members.
I have been in auto accidents, contract disputes, and disputes with
government. I have been a lawyer handling the conflicts of clients and a
judge of the conflicts of others.
Beginning in 1982, I became a student of what the Bible offers concerning
conflict. From student I moved to teacher, minister of reconciliation to
those in conflict, and assistant to war-torn churches seeking
reconciliation.
I have discovered that because our God does not change, His process for
finding justice when in conflict does not change based upon peculiarities of
people, facts, or form of conflict. His process offers what law courts of
man cannot offer: a hope of reconciliation and restoration of relationships,
and the ability to sleep in total peace at night (even when a conflict rages
and awaits us in the next day).
I have long had a desire to see more people given opportunity to learn the
principles and to have help in working them out when in conflict. It seems
to me that the Christian College and/or Seminary offers a marvelous
opportunity to reach many different segments of the Christian community with
the Scriptures about conflict.
Thus this proposal is made: a proposal to be sponsored into a local
community by a Christian College and/or Seminary. Components which might be
considered are:
(1) TEACHING OF STUDENTS, FACULTY AND/OR STAFF:
The materials on conflict can be outlined in as little as three hours. They
can also be expanded easily to a full semester course. They can be done with
or without role-play. Depending upon the schedule and flexibility of the
sponsoring institution, students can be taught in classroom settings, and
faculty and staff in concentrated evening or weekend sessions. Family
members and even outsiders could be invited. Fees could be charged for those
of the sponsor or only those from the outside.
But the truths of conflict can also be taught by assisting those in
conflict. Thus sessions can be scheduled for any person (student, faculty,
or staff) who may be dealing with conflict during the time of the
sponsorship. Such sessions could even involve conflicts faced by the sponsor
as an institution.
(2) TEACHING CHRISTIAN COMMUNITY LEADERS:
Businessmen, lawyers, doctors, social workers and others who exercise roles
in conflict by their daily professions, and who may be unaware of the
biblical truths or how to integrate them into their business or profession,
can also be invited to sessions tailored to their work. The same holds true
for pastors, elders, deacons, and other church leaders.
There are many ways to present the teaching to such individuals.
Participation at CBMC or FGBMI breakfast, lunch, dinner gatherings and Bible
studies can reach the business people. Special conferences for lawyers
(which can be presented for Continuing Legal Education Credits) is another.
Presentations at normal meetings of physicians, dentists, and those in the
counseling profession are possible. Week-end programs for church leaders, or
a series of evening lectures and discussions can reach those who will, in
turn, teach their people.
Seminars can be tailored to such things as: Dealing With Organizational
Conflict; Legal Issues Facing Churches and Religious Organizations;
Constructing Internal Conflict Resolution Mechanisms; etc.
But any of these people may also be involved in conflict. Again an
opportunity exists to teach by assistance, for a conflict offers the
opportunity to teach at least 4 people: the two parties themselves, and two
others who are brought in to assist. Those who walk through a conflict
practicing biblical principles become, in turn, teachers.
(3) REVIEWING DOCUMENTS:
Commonly, Christians, and Christian organizations, develop and use written
documents which purport to deal with conflict situations. An obvious example
would be a grievance or disciplinary process at a college. Partnership or
corporate agreements are others, as are contracts for buying and selling.
While we are on site for teaching, opportunity exists to review such
documents and offer evaluation and critique from the biblical perspective.
(4) MOVING FROM THE TEACHING MOMENT TO THE FUTURE:
By audio and video taping of any or all programs, a library on conflict
resolution can be created. This becomes a resource to the sponsor and
community. It becomes a source for ongoing “digging and discussing as iron
sharpens iron”.
(5) PREPARING FOR THE SPONSORSHIP TIME:
I have, over the years, prepared many pamphlets on a variety of issues
related to conflict. These are now being made available at
www.shepherdsforpeace.com for priming the pump for discussions, particularly
with leaders in the church community.
I have also developed some inserts for church bulletins designed to heighten
awareness of the degree to which conflict is constantly present in our lives
and to start the mind considering if the Bible has something to offer.
Obviously, getting the word out to leaders and lay people in the community
plays a big role in bringing people to be taught. We have found that efforts
by one church, or public advertisements seldom bring people forth in any
significant number. One reason for seeking sponsorship through a Christian
College or Seminary is the sense that the academic credentials of the
sponsor represent a “voice of good repute” which can be heard across many of
the denominational or other lines which we create in dividing the Body of
Christ.
Those last words, “lines which we create in dividing the Body of Christ”,
bring me to a fitting close to this proposal.
Why should we learn and practice the Lord’s process in conflict?
Yes, the individual needs to be able to find peace and a sense of justice
when in conflict.
Yes, we are called to be reconciled to God and to one another.
Yes we are called to be peacemakers and bear the burdens of one another (and
rebuke, admonish, teach, discipline).
But we are also called to appear to the world as ONE. We say we are one,
although our actions too often say we are not. One way to show we are one is
to begin to deal with our conflicts. As we do so, we will increasingly find
that these conflicts transcend all of our dividing lines. This offers
opportunities for leaders to meet across all lines in helping to deal with
conflict. This change our appearance before the world. This help us
demonstrate John 17:18-21.
What is required to fund the proposal? This is always awkward for me.
Obviously compensation should relate to the nature of the work. Thus if only
one portion of the proposal were to be taken up, the work lessens. At the
same time, the amount of time we would be gone from our home which would be
needed for one part is as much for all of the parts. But as additional parts
are added, the ability to charge fees to “outsiders” increases.
In an effort to reduce costs, and because we enjoy it, we prefer housing
with members of the academic community, even to moving around among several
as time permits. This minimizes housing and food costs. We also prefer to
drive from place to place, getting reimbursed for motel and food rather than
mileage, but with a per diem. We find it less costly than flying, as we are
often unable to utilize a major airport.
Having said this, I do not have a “fee”, but prefer to discuss such things
once there is receptivity to the concept.
I want to thank you for your willingness to consider this. If your college
is interested, I can send a resume. I also have outlines for a number of
different type presentations to different types of groups.
God’s blessing upon you and those you love.
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